As a young person grows and develops into a more independent individual, they will need to test out various independent ideas and ways of behaving. This may include engaging in disagreements, using attitude, taking risks and pushing boundaries that those around them have set. 

Some of these behaviours can be attributed to the way a teenager’s brain develops. Some parts of the brain don’t fully develop until the age of 25. These changes in the brain can both positively and negatively impact pre-teens and teenagers. For example, a pre-teen or teenager can become more passionate or unpredictable. 

To help guide young people through this transition, it is recommended that open communication is used with pre-teen and teenagers. They also require consistency and a loving, safe environment. One may find that negotiating with a young person is the most effective way for a young person to be able to have those independent thoughts and ideas, whilst respecting boundaries. This also allows a young person to develop their independence and take on more responsibility of their behaviours while further developing their problem-solving skills. Consequences allow for parents to discipline their children while allowing them to behaviour within the limits that pre-set boundaries have stated. 

If parents are concerned about their child’s behaviours, there are several options they could pursue to address these concerns. This includes discussing these concerns with the young person direction, talking to other parents or the young person’s teachers, or seek professional help.